Well it's international women's day. Logically, women were on my mind. I know a great many women, and many different kinds of women. I know women who work, women who stay home, women who have kids, women who have kids they adopted, women who work and have kids, women who work out, women who are overweight, women who are happy, women that are sour, women that are courageous, women that have wanderlust, women who speak three languages, women who are doctors, women who sell products out of their homes, women who have changed their world. In someway or another, every woman who has ever been has changed the reality of someone.
See, I don't call myself a "feminist". Because even though they proclaim "equality" they degrade men. Being woman is not oppressive. Women who think that have a warped perspective on what it is to be a woman! Being a woman is empowering and powerful, and always has been.
Women: the "man" behind their men:
Throughout history there is no doubt a great lack of recognized women in the renowned sense. But that's only when you look at the surface. Consider this: behind every great, powerful, and respected man in our history, there was more than likely a woman, not a man, who was there. There was someone making sure he had a safe haven, a clean home, clean clothes, food on the table, and that his babies were being raised right. But these women have always been so. much. more. Not only are they tending to the needs of their man, but they are also his greatest confidant, adviser and counselor. Women have such a rule and we don't even realize.
Women have always been powerful, but we have become discontent with humility. I don't say this lightly. Women have always possessed a natural power at commanding a room. The details of every woman's ability differs, but every woman is capable. And that's nothing new. What is new, is that we are shredding tradition that has cloaked us with a most attractive quality: humility. We've always been powerful, now we want people to recognize us for it. TEL ME HOW POWERFUL I AM. In our strive for the notable power, we have begun being a world full of awful people. We are actively degrading the system. Men who say "a woman can't do that" are being sexist. That is a true thing. But men who hold the door are being polite, chivalrous. Don't be offended when a gentleman offers to carry something heavy, that's not him putting you down, if anything, it thrusts you to a position of power over him. If that's what you crave so much, let him carry the darn box, and then you get to be the woman walking confidently, flaunting your womanly-ness and directing him.
Allowing men to be men, thrusts you, naturally, into a position of power. If you want to get into the nitty gritty of a job, so be it. But when women say they "crave the power men have" I feel like they are talking specifically about being corporate leaders, and not getting into the dirty details of a job. Allowing men to fulfil their natural needs and desires to work hard, allows you the opportunity you so long for to be a person of power. Asserting your feminism only creates a fight, where asserting your femininity calls the attention you need to create power in a situation.
Women do have power, so much so, that we actually need to be really careful. Now that we have uncovered that women, do in fact, have great power, I have a warning. Women's power can quickly become manipulation. In our tasteful and classy ways of creating environments in which we have the power, be careful that you are not being a manipulator. Manipulation from a man is abuse. Therefore, in your fight for "equality", your manipulation is likewise abusive. Do not, do not, be a manipulator. Manipulators are toxic people.
Be feminine. And that will be enough.
But wait, there's more!
Remember when I was talking about the kind of powerful women used to be? I wanna touch back on that, because as powerful as it may seem and feel to command a room full of men in suits, I think the home is our greatest asset in our search for power. Not just being the biggest fan of the leaders in the world, but the molders, shapers, and trainers of the future leaders of this world. Being a mother is one of the most powerful positions ever created. Funny, it as one of the first ever created.
Women who work in the corporate world or in the home, it doesn't matter. You're your own kind of powerful! Own it! Work it! Use it! Make the world a better place with it!
#femininenotfeminist
Xo,
Ellen
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